Celebrating our Failures

Yep, you read that title correctly…we celebrate our successes, but really let’s celebrate our failures as moms and dads too!

But before I get into that, an update from the last post – first of all, I was BLOWN AWAY by all your support and love. The transition was actually easier than I expected – Maggie loves daycare and work has been pretty good thanks to some very awesome co-workers. I’m very grateful for all their support and for making me laugh!

Now, on to today’s fun Saturday topic: FAILURES! In this social media age, we post lots of the good stuff – but not always the bad. It’s the ultimate filter…I’m a million times guilty of it too but occasionally I see those bad times…and it’s kind of refreshing – especially when you are struggling yourself…#miserylovescompany. Here are a few of mine!

  • Tucker broke his paw running around with my shoe (because I’m an undisciplined mom and let him run around with my shoes) and whiffed jumping on the bed. He’s been on restricted activity and a cast for almost 4 weeks now and we probably have another 2-3 weeks before the toe and the sores he got from his splint heals.  I feel super guilty and have spent a lot of time scrolling through Instagram looking for other dogs with broken paws (#brokenpaw).
  • Almost every morning once I get Maggie ready for daycare and strapped into the car I think of the scene in Bad Mons where they are running late to school. Now, daycare doesn’t have a set start time for infants, but of course, I have work and there are definitely times I am running late. I have left her milk in the car and have had to go back for it and I know its only a matter of time before I actually forget it at home.  Oh, and on our first week of daycare, I put my purse down on some kids wet artwork in the hall and when I realized that, said “OH SHIT” right in front of a 4 year old and the teacher. #WinningMomMoment
  • Maggie doesn’t have a set bed time. Sometimes she falls asleep at 8, sometimes 10.  I know she’s only four months old but I’d like to start something consistent and that’s just not happening these days. And sometimes, even though I try not to, I nurse to sleep. Because sometimes SHE NEEDS TO NAP AND JUST WON’T WITHOUT SOME MILK.
  • She currently has a cold AND pink eye. Now, I know this isn’t really my fault but it just makes me sad.
  • Sometimes I feel  pulled into eight different directions and I don’t have adequate time for all the relationships in my life. I am especially sorry to my husband for this one. Our conversations most days involve the words ‘diaper change,’ ‘pump parts’ ‘dinner’ ‘Tucker to the vet’ ‘daycare’ and there hasn’t been enough sentences that start with  ‘let’s go do something fun.’

These may not be what you consider failures or bad things, but to me, they can be. And I am sure there are more coming down the pike — just wait until the first daycare thing I can’t attend — but you know what?

I’m having a dance party for all these failures.

Why?

Because at the end of all these failing moments, I still have a great life. I still have a baby that smiles, a dog who is so sweet, and a husband who is already cracking Dad jokes. I have empathy – I have no problem sharing my failure stories for someone who needs to commiserate.  I have no problem making fun of myself, and frankly, I like to look back on the times I totally f-ed up and say ‘see I survived that and learned from it!’

So share those bad moments or failures freely – we are all in this together!

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Baby Mama!

Welllll it’s been awhile!

It’s been an interesting year for Tucker -he’s now a big brother to a little precocious baby girl who was born in July. While they say dog’s sense pregnancy, I’m not exactly sure that was true with Tucker until about 6 weeks before Magnolia was born. Anyway, I do believe that being  a dog mom has helped me with Magnolia, though yes, I admit it didn’t prep me that great (the car seats, the snaps on the onesies, the carriers…things I didn’t have to deal with for a puppy). Tucker has been great and Magnolia is a terrific baby…an the other night I thought, hey! I have a fair amount to say – maybe I’ll write a few blog posts! Here’s the thing though…

my baby has major FOMO during the day. I am blessed blessed blessed that she sleeps well at night…but during the day, naps are hit or miss…so when they happen, I frantically run around the house getting things done before she wakes up…or I’m napping too. And then some of the ideas I’ve had for posts go magically out of my brain. Yes, pregnancy brain is real and so is mom brain.

That being said, I am going to write a few things…and yes, Tucker will be featured prominently as well from time to time, but he’s been busy being a big brother, so you’ll excuse him if he doesn’t get in his posts…

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Review: A Dog’s Purpose

Another good chunk of time has gone by without a blog post. My apologies….I have lots of good ideas but sometimes the last thing I want to be doing is sitting behind a computer screen.  BUT I love this blog and I love to write. First, I’ve noticed that despite not writing regularly, I’ve gotten a fair amount of new followers. I’m not sure how you found me, but thank you!

Now, on to my post…a few months ago, I saw the trailer for  A Dog’s Purpose and knew, that despite it taking me 4 times to watch without crying, I wanted to see it. Shortly before the movie came out, there was a bit of controversy with the film which I think drew a lot of people away from it even though a further investigation found no wrong doing.  Now, I am not a big movie watcher. I might go to the movies 2-3 times a year, if that and I don’t watch a ton of movies at home. A few weeks back though, I decided I wanted to go to this movie and it worked out as my husband wanted to go see another movie and they were both playing at similar times.

I’m not going to give any spoilers away here, but everyone should know if they saw the trailer that the movie follows a dog named Bailey and his boy Ethan. When Bailey passes, he is basically comes back to live as other dogs to figure out his “purpose.” Here were my running thoughts during this movie:

  1. The dog’s name is Bailey, same as my human brother’s dog and the movie Bailey looks like my Tucker. This isn’t going to be good for me.
  2. About 30 minutes in–as I’m already starting to tear up, what the f— am I doing at this movie? Why did I think this was a good idea? Why did my husband think that me going to this movie was a good idea?
  3. Ok, a funny moment. Ok, I can do funny and sad.
  4. Haha, this one dog looks like my brother Oliver’s girlfriend. We like to think Oliver is Emily, our golden who passed away. I can get behind this reincarnation story now.
  5. OMG, what if Tucker is really someone else? Does Tucker like being Tucker? I think he has a pretty damn good life but what if he is longing for someone else?
  6. OMG, what if Tucker doesn’t have a good life during his next life? Can’t think of that. Gorge on these Starburst minis.
  7. Ooh, I like this ending. Stop crying. Pull yourself together, you have to leave the movie theater now and go hug Tucker for the remainder of the day.

It wasn’t a bad movie, but it’s probably not one I’m necessarily going to buy or watch when it comes on TV. As I’ve said before, it is uncanny how we sometimes see things that were so Emily and Spenser in my parent’s dogs Oliver and Tracer that take our breath away. Things that other dogs don’t do, but that they did and now Oliver and Tracer are doing and it makes you really think.

I will leave you with the end quote in the movie…the dog’s purpose…because it’s one of those things that I think we can take into our daily lives to remember (well except maybe the licking part…):

“Have fun, obviously. Whenever possible, find someone to save and save them. Lick the ones you love. Don’t get all sad-faced about what happened and scrunchy-faced about what could. Just be here now. Be. Here. Now. That’s a dog’s purpose.”

You’ve Got a Friend In Me

I know, it’s been awhile friends. With Christmas and the start of a new year, life has continued to be a little hectic. We are already into February and here it is Super Bowl Sunday and we’re also getting ready for Valentines Day (we all know Tucker is SUCH a ladies man).

This past week, we had a very special visitor in our house: Tracer! Tracer is Tucker’s 4 month old golden retriever uncle. Now, you may be chasing your tail here in confusion, so let me explain. My parents have two golden retrievers as you know, Oliver and Tracer. Now, because they are my parent’s pups, that means they are my brothers. Which also means they are Tucker’s Uncles! Anyway, my mom went in her for her highly anticipated knee replacement surgery last Monday and Tracer came to stay with us. And don’t worry about Oliver–he enjoyed a few quality days of spa time at the wonderful Kind Hearted Pet Resort. Tracer is not old enough to go to the Kind Hearted Pet Resort so we got to host him!

I admit–I was a bit nervous. Tracer is 4 months old and while very well-behaved for a puppy, it would still be a new environment for him and it would be Tucker’s very first houseguest. Yes, Tucker has always been the bride but never a bridesmaid-always a guest at other homes but never hosting. Tucker and Tracer get along but when we would go to my parents, Tracer was always a little nervous of Tucker. Tucker likes to run, play, wrestle and make all sorts of noises which would freak Tracer out. So, we set up a few playdates where Tracer came over a few hours to get used to this place before he slept over and all seemed great but it’s a whole different dog park when Tracer would be here for the week.

Last Monday, I came home from work to two playful pups. Any concern I had about there being some nerves from Tracer or Tucker feeling put out was immediately put in the crate as I watched these two wrestle and cuddle. Tracer had no fears and settled in quick and Tucker truly enjoyed having Tracer here. There were a few scuffles over toys, but otherwise it was a smooth visit. Sure, I haven’t slept past 5:45 AM almost a week, I’ve used 8,000 poop bags, and I’ve been knocked over a few times when I’ve gotten in the way of puppy wrestles but it was all worth it. It always is when I see puppy happiness. It will be weird to not have Tracer tonight since he went home to take care of his Mom.

This morning as I was doing the morning walks, I found myself singing the song, You’ve Got a Friend in Me from Toy Story. I’ve been so depressed about the state of our country lately but these two pups reminded me of all the good in the world.

“You’ve got a friend in me
You’ve got a friend in me
You’ve got troubles, and I’ve got ’em too
There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for you
We stick together and can see it through
‘Cause you’ve got a friend in me
You’ve got a friend in me.”

 

Now please excuse me if I don’t make it to the Super Bowl halftime show!

Happy July!

Happy July! I have to admit, my creative juices have been a bit on summer break. Given the fact that I haven’t seen as many blog posts from some of the other regulars I follow, I think the same is true for a lot of people!

Last weekend we saw Tucker’s favorites- his Gran and Bar and his Uncles Oliver and Spenser. He even got to see Bailey, my brother’s dog who he adores. It was a good weekend- I got to go to a Dixie Chicks concert and the crazy dog dad got to golf a few times. And of course, Tucker got to play and play and play.

This weekend is 4th of July and Tucker and I are enjoying some nice weather that DC has given us- not too hot and humid which makes for some good walking weather (and also maybe some good wine drinking weather on the balcony!).

I’m on the hunt for a good bone to give Tucker–he’s a super chewer and can get bored easily. We give him knuckles but he’s been known to break a few chunks off . Any suggestions? Does anyone feed the dog frozen marrow bones? I’m curious as to how those are…

Just leaving you with one funny clip I saw this week. The crazy dog dad sent this to me and I honestly could not stop laughing. Seriously, this couple could be me. If you only knew how much I talked about poop, or woke up in the night asking where Tucker was, you would know..

And here are a few photos from Tucker’s latest adventures…

Back in the Saddle Again

Well, we’re back from vacation and each one of us enjoyed ourselves. I promise Tucker will be recapping his adventures at some point this weekend, but in the meantime I think he’s happy to be home but missing his dog family.

We are having a pretty low key weekend after our adventures of the previous few weeks. Additionally, I’ll be traveling next week for work so Tucker and the semi-crazy dog dad will be bacheloring it up. And, the heat and humidity are back in force this weekend. How I’ve loved the past 2 days of no humidity and cooler temperatures for our walks.

Speaking of summer, have you seen this information from the Journal of the American Medical Association? Something to keep in mind…of course, I’m that wacko that will put her hands down on the concrete to see how hot it is for his paws…also, check out the dew points too before you go out- the higher the dewpoint, the stickier it is!

Now that I’m off that soapbox, here’s some things I’ve seen the last few weeks that have made me laugh (and cry)

Bretagne passes away– I’m sure you’ve all  heard about this, Bretagne the last known search and rescue dog from 9/11 passed away earlier this week at the age of 16. Rest in peace sweet angel, you are an amazing dog.

Does your dog have an Emergency Plan? True story, the other night I was in the shower when I heard the fire alarm go off. Now, our apartment smoke alarms are VERRRY sensitive but rarely does the full building fire alarm go off. I wasn’t even sure if that’s what it was at first but luckily the semi crazy dog dad got me out of the shower. I was worried Tucker would freak the you know what out about the noise but he loved this fire alarm since it meant EVERY SINGLE ONE OF HIS BUDDIES WAS OUTSIDE AT THE SAME TIME! Luckily, this wasn’t anything serious, BUT it got me thinking that we need to have a plan in case we aren’t home one day and this happens. This article is helpful in getting something together!

Toddler Steals Dog’s Treat: Toddlers I tell you, nothing but trouble.

We’ll be back later this weekend…

 

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season. I have enjoyed some time off and have one more day before I go back to work and I think Tucker is ready to get back to normalcy. For … Continue reading